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People tell you to take small steps. And you prob

People tell you to take small steps.
And you probably think that’s just something people say to be nice.
It’s not. It’s neuroscience. It’s sociology.
It’s how democracies shift…..
Eg Brexit wouldn’t have happened under 2% of the voters would have flipped their vote.
-Same with 2000 US election, bush vs gore was infamously decided by 537 votes. Fractions of a percent. Small is where the power lives. Your brain works the same way. Tiny consistent shifts don’t just feel manageable-they are literally how transformation is wired to happen. So if you can stop waiting until you’re ready to change everything. Change 3%. That’s more than enough And pls tell me below or send me a DM, put it out into the world what’s the 3% shift you’re making this week?
#lifecoaching #nlp #lifecoachinglondon

Pics 1, 2- my most likely in my year book Pics 3-

Pics 1, 2- my most likely in my year book Pics 3- Cleveland clinic of Hypermobility spectrum disorder
Reading @lenadunham newest book Famesick gave me the balls to do this (ish still nervously typing!)She describes a moment where she receives an email from someone who’s read her first book. And says, have you ever thought about the fact that you might have EDS? Lena who had access to the best doctors in the world, found out from someone reading her book that she has Ehlers Dahlos Syndrome.
The average time to diagnosis for hEDS is 22 years. For HSD it’s 17.5 years. Most people spend nearly two decades not knowing. 70% of those diagnosed are female, and women are diagnosed on average almost nine years later than men. Nine years of being told you’re fine.
I’ve been diagnosed for many years with a blur of HSD (hypermobility spectrum disorder) borderline EDS. Unhappy bedfellows if you will.
I’ve wanted to write something about this for a long time but honestly I’ve always felt embarrassed. Because before you get into everything it entails, Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder sounds like, flexibility. It just felt/feels too easy to dismiss. Being hypermobile is actually really common. Up to 20% of the population have joints that move beyond the normal range. HSD is what happens whenyour connective tissue is too flexible, not just your joints, but your organs too. Your gut, your bladder, your whole system is working harder than it should just to hold itself together. There’s a huge nervous system element to all of it. Your body is in a near-constant state of low-level threat.But too easy I feared for other people to hear and think I was inventing something. More in comments 👇

You learned this young. At some point, love felt l

You learned this young. At some point, love felt like it had to be earned. So your nervous system found a solution: keep everyone happy, and you’ll be safe. The problem is, you got so good at reading everyone else, you lost the signal to yourself. You stopped knowing what you actually want. If you are looking to loosen the grip in your system that people pleasing has on you….I have limited 1:1 for coaching starting in June.
#peoplepleasing

The way you are sabotaging yourself with self talk

The way you are sabotaging yourself with self talk which you don’t even realise you’re doing. I remember the first time I properly saw this.First day of a training modules and my trainer asked me what I wanted in life. On autopilot I replied:
“I don’t want to be trapped in pain, I don’t want to feel anxious, I don’t want…” Pause. Then he asked me:
“But what do you actually want instead?” 🧠 Our brains often have so much information about what we don’t want.
But your brain doesn’t register “don’t” the way you think. “I don’t want to feel anxious”
“I can’t mess this up” It still has to create the thing first.
That’s the frame. So you’re not avoiding it…
you’re reinforcing it. 👉 So instead, give your brain something to move towards. Try this for a week: Every morning, write three things you actually want to experience or do. Keep it small AND specific. “I want to go for a walk at lunch because it clears my head”
vs
“I feel anxious, I should go for a walk” “I want to feel steady in that meeting”
vs
“Don’t be anxious”. Let me know if this makes sense!#lifecoaching #nlp #nlpmasterpractitioner

Do you actually know what you want? Not the polish

Do you actually know what you want?
Not the polished answer. The real one.
Does the life you’re living actually feel like you?
Most people don’t. Not because they’re lost… because they’ve never had the space or the right framework to find out.
It can feel like the kind of question that needs a year off and a backpack. But clarity doesn’t come from escaping your life. It comes from interrupting how you usually respond inside it.
That’s why I LOVE this technique that my coach taught me years ago.
Something happens when you add that third “really.” It catches the automatic answer off guard — the one that’s always ready, always rehearsed.
There’s a tiny pause.
And in that pause, there is something that opens. That something is less familiar, but more honest, that gets a chance to come through.
Try it. Tell me what comes up.
And “I don’t know” is a perfectly good place to start. 🙏
#nlp #lifecoaching #selfawareness #personaldevelopment

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